What to do if your boyfriend does not have enough time for you

For those in relationships where time is scarce and companionship is hard to come by, here are five steps to take to lift the loneliness and begin to feel valued again.

1. Communicate your feelings

This is one thing that can't be emphasized enough. Every relationship issue that has dragged on till it becomes unbearable has to be discussed with your partner first before anybody.

If you are not cool with the amount of time you are being afforded by your boyfriend, don't bottle it in for too long. Let him know that you need his attention.

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2. Suggest date schedules

If you're pressed for time in your relationship, you'll have to deliberately make it happen.

Suggest a routine date night schedule to him; even if it means spending one hour together every week on normal work nights and then some more over the weekends.

In any case, for a relationship to thrive, partners need to spend time together, discussing, sharing ideas, rubbing minds and just seeing and feeling how the other's mind works.

If it means, scheduling this on a routine basis, so be it. Better a routine than no time at all

3. Schedule other communication means too

Making time for one another doesn’t have to be only face to face.

If your boyfriend is naturally so busy that time for you needs to be ground out, then you might have to help him find that time.

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Here's the thing, some people are just so invested in their work that they do not know when to stop and take a break. If he is that kind of guy and you're patient enough, creating a schedule of video calls, phone-calls and text messaging and encouraging him to create the little time to stay connected is not a bad idea.

This way, if things do not work due to a lack of attention, you can say you genuinely tried to do what you can.

4. Is he truly hardworking?

If he's being really hardworking and has a tasking job, then those late nights and extra weekend hours should not really offend you so much.

While you deserve time, in the grander picture, you [and the kids you choose to have] also deserve a good future as well as a man who is capable of playing his part in that.

Don't harangue him when some of that free time you have should be spent on being busy yourself.

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5. Be considerate

One other important thing to note here is to be considerate and not overly selfish in your demand for time. Sometimes, you could have seen his schedule before deciding to get into the relationship. Don't get into it and start nagging. That'd be unfair since you knew exactly what you were getting into.